Tips for dealing with frustration at work

 

Everyone gets frustrated at work from time to time.  It may be because of something your boss has said, a timeline that gets changed, a coworker not pulling their weight or even something you've done yourself.  How you deal with these feelings of frustration can have a big impact on how you're perceived by your peers and boss and ultimately your career.  Here are some tips to help you when you're feeling frustrated at work.

Don't react right away

When something irritates you, your initial reaction may be to say something immediately.  This is not always the best idea. When you're frustrated, you may also be emotional.  Reacting emotionally can cause you to say or act in a way that isn't what you intend.  For instance of a peer forgets to complete an important task you might want to tell at them.  If you did, you might even feel good for a moment, but you could also damage your relationship with your peer or worse have to explain your self to HR.  Instead, pause and breath.  If you can disconnect yourself from the situation.  Go for a walk or meditate.  In this time you can work through how you will address the situation calmly and effectively.

Get a second opinion

Ask someone who can be objective for help.  Tell them what happened, why you're frustrated and how you feel about it.  Let them analyze your situation and give you objective advice on your situation.  You may be highly upset about what has happened, but they may have a different perspective that can help you to look at the situation in a more positive light.  This can have an immediate positive impact on your emotional state and better prepare you to tackle the issue head one.

Imagine that you're looking back from the future

Imagine that 6 months has passed and you're looking back at this moment.  How will you judge your reaction?  Will you look back and think that wasn't as big of a deal as I thought it was?  This can have a powerful effect on your ability to become self aware in the situation. You'll be able to help yourself understand the real importance of the situation.  Many times in my career, I've looked back on something that seemed so frustrating in the moment only to realize that it was not that big of a deal. 

Use that paid time off

Most companies give their employees paid time off.  If you find that you're becoming frustrated frequently it's time to take a break. Schedule vacation with your boss and completely disconnect from work.  To avoid stress about leaving work behind review our tips on How to go on vacation without stressing about work.  When you can truly disconnect you'll be able to recharge and focus on your personal well being.  You'll return to work ready to take on new challenges.

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